Being an empowered woman doesn’t mean ruining a man’s car

In the hit Taylor Swift song “Blank Space”, Taylor feels wronged by a good-looking playboy who cheats on her.  According to the video, the response for women in this situation isn’t to leave, and thank god you realized that the man you were devoted to is wrong for you, but to ruin a prized possession of his.  In this case, that possession is a Shelby Cobra (a replica for the video).

A similar message is displayed in the Carrie Underwood song “Before he Cheats”.  In this song, a woman finds out that her partner cheated, and responds by smashing his truck.

I have taken a real issue with this message of destroying a man’s car as a response to his infidelity.  Making songs about this endorses this kind of activity, when the real message should be that you are much better off without a man who will treat you in such a way.  I know that when people are hurt they act in irrational ways at times, but creating songs as a way to make this OK is not a way to empower women to stand up to men who treat them wrong.

So “maybe next time he’ll think before he cheats”?  If you really want a boyfriend, husband, etc. that is only staying faithful out of a fear that you will ruin something material of his, then enjoy that relationship!  Call me old fashioned, but I think that a man shouldn’t cheat because of things like he is in love with his girl, it is wrong to do, etc.

There is also a strange double standard.  I don’t recall a song about a woman who cheats so the man throws her shoes in a woodchipper or rips the head off of her beloved teddybear that was given to her by her grandmother.

I especially take issue with the CAR thing because I am a car fanatic and the idea of ruining something that is rare, or has been a major time investment over the ending of a BAD relationship seems needlessly destructive.  The message to young girls listening should be “good thing that kind of person is out of your life”, not “hurt him back as brutally as you can” or “take revenge on an inanimate object that could bring people joy “.

Taylor Swift ruining a rare, classic car instead of taking time to celebrate the fact that her boyfriend was an asshole and she is lucky to get rid of him

Taylor Swift ruining a rare, classic car instead of taking time to celebrate the fact that her boyfriend was an asshole and she is lucky to get rid of him

Carrie Underwood sending the message to young girls that you should "threaten material items of your boyfriend so he is forced into staying in a horrible relationship with you that he really wishes he could get out of"

Carrie Underwood sending the message to young girls that you should “threaten material items of your boyfriend so he is forced into staying in a horrible relationship with you that he really wishes he could get out of”

 

Carrie Underwood:  I am angry because I was a bad judge of character, so now your prized possession will be ruined.

Carrie Underwood: I am angry because I was a bad judge of character, so now your prized possession will be ruined.

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